01 — Know God for yourself…Pray!

Now I know that sounds like a given but there were times that I couldn’t come up with a clear thought. The feeling of confusion, hopelessness & deep sadness made me believe that God couldn’t see me. In those moments, I said “Jesus”. I continued to hold God’s hand even when I didn’t know where I was going or how I was going to get there.

02 — Therapy! (Men ya’ll too)

The sharp pain that lived in the pit of my stomach was agonizing. I knew early in my journey that I needed grief counseling. My mistake was I stopped too soon. I do believe this prolonged my healing journey. (Very Long story) Now, I will admit I have a wonderful circle of friends but there are things that happen between a husband and wife that are just too personal to share with people who loved us both.

03 — Feel it! ALL of it!

I had to keep going right? Trying to keep my husband in my heart & not be mad at him for leaving was WILD to me! There was too much to deal with in my everyday life & now I needed to feel my emotions in order to heal?! I learned that when I needed to cry or became overshadowed with sadness I would set a time for it. I started with 30mins (ya girl had to let it out)…During the 30 mins. I cried and I allowed the feelings to pass. After 30 mins I forced myself to get back to living.

04 — Feed your soul & starve negativity

I had to be purposeful of who I allowed in my space, what songs I listened to & the places I visited. FB was enemy number 1 to me! Every other post was “there’s no good men out here” or “women are superficial and only want a man with money.” I began listening to motivational podcast, a lot of gospel & uplifting music & sermons. I moved away from toxic people & places.